We've all done it. We're dating a guy we think might be worth our time, when out of nowhere we start a destructive pattern of sabotage and in a short time, the relationship goes belly up. Why do we do this, ladies?! Here are 3 ways to stop the sabotage! 1- Don't be the one who calls all the time.

One of the biggest mistakes women make in relationships is taking the lead too soon by calling, texting and e-mailing their guy all the time. Don't do it. Make him call, text and e-mail you by showing him that you've got a life. You're busy and you don't have time to sit around sending him a hundred texts a day. Take it easy and make him come to you.

Don't cater to his every need. Sure, in a relationship, women want to take care of their men by doing things to make their lives easier. While you might think this is a good idea, don't do it. Being too compliant, changing your schedule around for him and waiting on him hand and foot will surely lead to the demise of your relationship. A man wants a girlfriend or wife, not a maid. It's important to show a guy how independent you are and that your world does not center around him.

Don't be naive. You're not 18 anymore, so don't act like it. Don't believe everything a guy tells you and then govern your actions according to what he says. No way! Make sure he's telling the truth and if he's not, kick him to the curb.